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10 Things I’ve Learned Since Turning 25

So, last week I turned 25 years old. A quarter of a century… 25 years… insanity.

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Apparently, when you turn 25 years old, people start considering you a “grown up” and “able to make her own decisions in life”, including daunting tasks, such as making dentist appointments. Side note: I have still yet to do this… sorry, mom.

Even though I don’t feel as though I’m old enough to actually make my own health decisions and keep myself alive, I thought I’d share some insights I’ve had since coming to the realization that I’m officially a quarter. (century, that is)

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10 Things I’ve Learned Since Turning 25

1. It’s okay to not to be settled into a relationship by now. My single friends (hiii, guys!) are divided into 2 distinct groups: those who are owning their ‘me’ time, and those who feel as if they need to be in a committed relationship. I’ve learned it’s MUCH more important to go with life’s timing than societies. You’re still in your 20s! There is no rush- please, ladies, don’t settle because you feel like it needs to be “your time” to find a partner. This comes naturally.

2. Most people don’t stick with their first job. When I graduated college, I thought that I needed my first job to be my dream job. What I found is that it was an eye opener. It made me realize what I actually like to focus on, outside of the classroom. Real life experience is so different than courses, so get out there and get your toes wet in a variety of subjects! There is no shame in trying out different career paths until you find your niche.

3. Don’t ditch your friends when you find a significant other. You can find the love of your life, but you will still need your friends. Make time for them! I try to spend alone time during the week with Dj, and we leave our weekends open to hang out in groups of people. Who said date night can’t be on a Tuesday, anyways?

4. Travel as much as possible. Not necessarily out of the country, since I do understand your wallet can be tight this time of your life (but if you can, please do!) Take weekend trips! Day trips! Google what there is to see in your city- even if you think that you’ve seen it all- and go do it. Being a tourist wherever I go and live has taught me so much about different areas/cultures/people.

5. Make time for family. It’s sad to think about/realize, but as you’re growing older, so are your parents, grandparents, and other family members. Call your grandparents; ask about stories when they were your age! If possible, write these stories down, they can prove to be invaluable.

6. Age is just a number. It’s crazy how from the time I was 16-24 I always heard, “you’re so young!” and literally the day I turned 25 I heard, “you’re so old!” I’m not sure what changed within those 24 hours between being 24 and 25 but, to me, there is no such thing as “old”.

7. If you have an idea, work for it. I spoke about this a little when I posted about how to start a blog, but nobody will care about your passions as much as you do. Work for it- believe in yourself and your dreams! You’re never too settled or “old” to aspire and work on new goals.

8. Pay off your credit cards and only spend as much as you can afford each month. I know this tip might not work for everyone, but it’s a key lesson I’ve learned from my mom. You don’t want to go into debt at a young age! (See, mom? I listen! 😉 )

9. Socialize! I hardly ever turn down an invite to happy hour or hanging out with friends. On the months I’m low on funds, I’ll eat at home prior to joining in on the fun. This is the time, before you’re boggled down with responsibilities that you can go out and make lasting friendships.

10. Meet everyone; your professional pool can never be too large. In today’s working industry, it’s more about who you know vs what you know. Sure, having the skill set for a job is very helpful- but getting your foot in the door is what matters. You never know who you will meet and who will know someone that can benefit you down the line.

This goes without saying, but enjoy your life- there are no set rules. Live the way that makes you happy!



3 Questions for you:

  1. Do you have any ‘lessons’ you’d add to this list?
  2. Do you disagree with any of the ‘lessons’ here?
  3. What motto do you try to live your life to?

 

2 Comments

  • Reply Katie January 19, 2016 at 4:23 pm

    Basically nodded along to this whole post, Melissa! Absolutely loved it. Can’t wait to see what your 25th year has in store!

    • Reply Melissa January 19, 2016 at 4:27 pm

      Thank you, Katie! I’m excited to see what it has in store, as well 🙂 xo

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